How to forgive those who have caused you the deepest wounds?

Have you ever wondered what the essence of forgiveness is?

Each of us encounters different situations and people in our lives that leave wounds in our hearts. The biggest impression is left by family members, especially those we are related to by blood.

Since childhood, I have felt that I was not equally accepted by my parents. The relationship with my father is especially complicated. For many years, I did not even notice how much this hurt and limited me. It was only a few years ago that I slowly started to peel back the layers and realized that I was the one who had to take action and fix my pain. This pain arose in early childhood and has not been fixed over the years, but has only increased.

I calmly accepted the emergence of this situation and didn't think about it for many years.

Why should I, because I am my own person. My own personality. I will not let others influence me! They do not influence me at all! Yes, they do. No, no! But if I ignore it, does the problem disappear? What if I look away? What if I pretend it does not exist?

The more I dug into my perspective on the situation, the more I realized I was hurt. Like a little girl being scolded and not knowing what she had done wrong. The guilt that was happening to me hurt more and more, the harder I worked. I wondered why my father allowed my sister and her family to live comfortably, while I, unlike her, always had to work so damn hard to achieve anything.

I realized that I was unconsciously trying to prove myself to my father.

It was important for me to reach a leadership position in my career, to get promoted, to complete my master's degree, and to...

In all this striving for pleasure and a little love, I didn't realize that I was destroying myself. It didn't matter that I had to put my family's needs aside for the sake of my career. My job came first. There would come a time when... Not only was my family, who had always supported me, neglected, but my health was also neglected, for which the time was never right. Even when it was failing me badly, I returned to work when my body wasn't ready.

I created hills and valleys, mountains and lakes, peaks and abysses, and in the end I landed in the abyss.

I slowly began to realize that I had to give the pain back to where I got it. At some point, I told my father what I felt and what I didn't like. Did he understand? Actually, not quite. Does it matter? Not at all, because by doing so, I felt a HUGE relief and healed a part of my wounded heart.

Now, bit by bit, I am healing a relationship that has caused me a lot of grief. The path has also led me into the waters of Chinese metaphysics, a science that combines the ancient knowledge of Chinese sages and is based on the knowledge of the flow and influence of environmental energies on ourselves. Using one of the techniques, I choose a day on which the energies support the power of forgiveness 10 times. This day is called Heavenly Forgiveness Day . There are only 6-7 such days in a year.

This day I dedicate myself to all those who I believe have hurt me in the past. I dedicate myself to all obstacles, quarrels, resentments, anger, and the desire for revenge.

The power of forgiveness is powerful!

It is like a waterfall that you stand under to wash away all the dirt of resentment, anger, and vengeful thoughts that weigh you down, preventing you from saying NO or taking a step forward.

I invite you to join me in honoring Heavenly Forgiveness Day on June 5th.

and cleanse yourself of the pain you carry in your heart. Take five, ten minutes of time for yourself. In your mind, touch the people or situations where you felt pain and forgive and forgive them with all your heart. Finally, give thanks for this life experience, because you know that it was necessary.

If you feel that way, write to me about how you experienced this day, what was released within you?

Don't forget that I will be with you in the process to support you.

Good luck!